Ruthful Thoughts about Life & Jeffrey Dean Morgan

rs_1024x759-151005124758-1024-jeffrey-dean-morgan-the-good-wife-ch-100515It feels weird to write a post when I have nothing useful to share, but like I said before, I need to get better at writing when I don’t have something sad to write about. So here goes. Prepare yourself for something stupid.

Not much is going on in my little world right now, which has freed me up to notice a few things. The other maxresdefaultnight, I woke up in the wee morning hours with a bout of insomnia. What was keeping me awake, you ask? The word “ruthless”. Where did that word come from? Can you be “ruthful”? Full of ruth? Was there some wonderful Ruth who launched “ruthless” as being exactly opposite of her?

ie: Jane wasn’t ruthless; instead, she was full of ruth. She was ruthful.

I know. Don’t judge me.

"Shoot" -- Diane, Cary and Lucca defend the grieving father of a shooting victim (Blair Underwood) in a defamation suit over a billboard he put up describing a gun store owner as a murderer. Also, a romantic rendezvous between Alicia and Jason is interrupted when Alicia learns that Grace is being accused of plagiarizing her college entrance essay, on THE GOOD WIFE, Sunday, March 20 (9:00-10:00 PM, ET/PT) on the CBS Television Network.  Pictured (l-r)  Julianna Margulies as Alicia Florrick and Jeffrey Dean Morgan as Jason Crouse Photo: David M. Russell/CBS ©2016 CBS Broadcasting, Inc. All Rights Reserved
Alicia and Jason, getting it on in public. 

The other thing is The Good Wife and Jeffrey Dean Morgan. I watched the entire series. Seasons 1-6,  Alicia pseudo loves Will, but there was depth to the whole show. Then, the show introduces Jeffrey Dean Morgan as Alicia’s love interest/bad boy investigator. From then on, it’s about Alicia and Jason getting it on. My question is, is the entire world of women in lust for Jeffrey? I mean, whoa, buddy. I can’t even 100% hate his character on The Walking Dead, and this is sad because that character is evil. I mean, truly evil.

I’m so shallow!!

I set up an online dating profile this week, and I’m talking to a guy I met through it. We swapped out crazy-dog-ladyFacebook pages, and in looking at mine from an outsider’s perspective, I find that I give the impression I’m a crazy dog/cat person with no life. I have a life; I just don’t tend to share it much on Facebook. My collection of friends are diverse, and animal videos might be the only thing in the whole world that offends none of them.

I’m seriously going to have to fix that if I’m going to be graded on what kind of person I am by that social media!

Hope you guys have a great weekend!!

~Bird

How To Get People To Hear What You Are Saying

blogI really miss having the internet at home. I always think of a million things I want to write about in the middle of the night, and by morning, they seem to just evaporate — just gone forever. Darn it.

Last night, I went speed dating again. That is a post for another day. What I want to write about is what happened after I got home.

Late in the evening, when I finally got home,  I checked my phone, and my law-enforcement FB friend had been going nuts about my opinions on Facebook. I didn’t answer any of his rather offensive outbursts last night, but decided to just calm down a little before addressing his foray over the line. I’m glad I did. Today, it doesn’t make me angry. Instead, it is a perfect example of the importance of presentation when you offering up your opinions about sensitive subjects.

I believe wholeheartedly, we all are entitled to our opinions. Some of my 28-pedicel_flowers-030very favorite humans on this planet disagree with me in very fundamental ways. My views are very easily understood because I write about them on a public blog. In the years I’ve been doing this, I’ve collected a very eclectic and diverse set of friends including no few atheists, some self-identified witches, gays, mistresses, and a ton of other people with lifestyle choices I probably would never have chosen for myself. That being said, why aren’t they offended by my very literal adherence to the bible? Why do they care enough to tell me they are sad for me when I cry, or happy for me when I laugh? Why am I not their enemy?

The answer is, because I don’t treat people who think differently from me with disrespect. They aren’t my enemies! I am not arrogant enough to believe that I have all the right answers and if someone comes up Gun-Control-Debatewith a different one, I don’t decide they are immediately and instantly wrong and stupid. My opinions are not easily threatened by differing ones, and I find no reason not to listen to the logic and reasoning someone else has used to come up with a different answer.

I know why I believe what I do, so my opinions are not threatened easily by someone else knowing why they believe differently and being able to present their reasons to me. Some of my very fundamental beliefs have actually grown and changed because someone was able to show me with their logic and presentation skills, why I might be wrong, or short-sighted, or just not thinking big enough. I hope I’ve done the same for others. We should always be learning from one another.

imagesI don’t mind that my FB friend believes differently than I do. What bothers me is the approach. Why bother to post your opinions about politics, religion, or anything else if you do it in such a manner, no one hears anything you are trying to say? I don’t understand what the point of that is. Any skirting with words that imply you attacking on a personal level will immediately cause all the words that you write afterwards to go unconsidered. If your tone is patronizing, argumentative, or arrogant, you send a different message no matter what truth may lie in the words you are writing. People will get defensive, walls go up, and you stop being considered anything other than an enemy.

Before you can communicate, there is a certain level of trust that has to be assumed, even in writing.

I would encourage anyone with strong opinions that cause polarizing to opposite sides of an issue to ask themselves, what is my motive for Quote-about-Passion-and-Common-Sensesharing my opinions? If it is because you like a healthy debate, good for you. A lot of us do. But bow out when it starts to degenerate to name-calling or arrogant tones. The minute you give in to snarkiness, you’ve lost the exchange. If you just like to upset people, then I’m sure you can find others who are looking for the same thing.

But if you really care about the world you live in, and genuinely are looking for the right solutions to some of the problems we’re dealing with today, remember how you say something is just as important as what you say. Be wise enough to know that we need each other’s ideas in order to create for ourselves a more realistic view of the world we are trying to mend, and treat everyone with the amount of respect you would hope they would treat you with. In other words, follow the golden rule, even when you’re posting things on Facebook.

short-quotes-personal2‘Cause, dude, if you don’t start addressing your tone, you’re outta here. 🙂

~ Bird