Self-Accepting Your Self-Awareness Without Being Self-Absorbed

acceptI’ve been thinking about the importance of self-awareness and self-acceptance. Prompted by a conversation I was following on the internet, the  original question was how does one go about accepting themselves the way they are, so they can stop worrying about all the stuff they wish were different about themselves. 

I do not believe anyone is so flawless they should just sit back and “self-acceptance” themselves until they die. Self-awareness is far more valuable in my opinion. 

I would love to know what the general consensus is out there…plus, I tend to make a point of finding all the polls on WordPress. I love quick polls asking me what I think. 

Polls = Mad Fun

For the polls, I thought I would explain briefly the differences for those of you who have been too busy to catch the most recent buzz words. 🙂


  • Self-Awareness: Self-awareness is a psychological state in which people are aware of their traits, feelings and behaviour. Alternately, it can be defined as the realization of oneself as an individual entity.”\(Crisp & Turner, 2010)
  • Self-Awareness is “..a psychological state in which one takes oneself as an object of attention.”(Franzoi, 1996)


  • Wikipedia describes self-acceptance as follows:

Self-acceptance is defined as acceptance of self in spite of deficiencies.

enlightenmentAlthough this term has been often understood in a common sense way, researchers have defined it formally in terms of positive and negative self-concepts. According to Shepard (1979), self-acceptance refers to an individual’s satisfaction or happiness with himself, and is thought to be necessary for good mental health. Self-acceptance involves self-understanding, a realistic, albeit subjective, awareness of one’s strengths and weaknesses. It results in an individual’s feeling about himself that he is of “unique worth”.

In clinical psychology and positive psychology, self-acceptance is considered the prerequisite for change to occur. It can be achieved by stopping criticizing and solving the defects of one’s self, and then accepting them to be existing within one’s self. That is, tolerating oneself to be imperfect in some parts.

Counseling and therapy, such as cognitive-behavioral therapy and mindfulness-acceptance based approaches (see


I have put some polls below. Please vote, and write any thoughts you have on this subject. If you specifically do not want me to quote you in an article, just say so in the comments. Otherwise, I hope to get some interesting perspectives. 


Thanks, you guys!!!